Mistakes. For some – one of the most terrifying things known to man, or woman. Many men and women who suffer from an eating disorder also have a tendency to have extremely unrealistic expectations of themselves. We are also known as perfectionists.
After just working three 11+ hour days in a row – I feel like I need to seriously address this in my own life. You, me, we, no one will ever be perfect. There was one person who has walked this Earth who was literally flawless, and that was Jesus Christ. As a Christian, I have been taught that we are to strive to be like him, but we cannot be him.
There is more to life than letting your mind be filled with everything that went wrong today. Everyone makes mistakes.
A common exhibition of perfection is seen in recovery, as ironic as that may seem. If you take people who have “perfected” their disorders, from restricting to secretly binging/purging all the way to hiding cuts and scars obtained from self-harm, they will still feel a need to be perfect at something. So take one obsession away and it is often replaced by another. This is exactly why therapy is so necessary – it’s important to know your roots, and why you feel the way you do and why you do what you do. When you address this it will be easier to let go of the obsessions and perfectionism. Now, there is nothing wrong with giving your all to recovery – but you WILL make mistakes and you WILL have slip ups, that’s part of the journey.
One of my favorite quotes: “Every set-back is a set-up for a come-back.” I believe that you cannot, and will not, be successful without mistakes, and probably a lot of them. That is what learning is, and it’s one of the best ways to learn! I say this, and I know it’s true – and I understand how difficult it is to apply to real life. But I am here to tell you that you can definitely, absolutely do it.
So, if you made a lot of mistakes today – you’re not alone. But now is the time of the day where you need to accept it, decide what you can learn from it, and push it out of your mind.
Follow you dreams – focus on them, don’t let perfectionism be your dream killer.